How to Tell if You Have a Keeper
24-Hour Crisis Helpline 314.531.2003
If you’re fortunate enough to have a keeper, do all you can to make it last forever. On the other hand, if someone is hurting you, please call the number above to get the help you need because you deserve better and there are people who want to help save you from that hurtful relationship.
They encourage you
THEY DON’T HURT YOU
They pull the cover over you and kiss your cheek when they think you’re asleep.
You laugh together.
They make you coffee (or your favorite drink) even though they don’t drink that.
THEY TRULY VALUE YOUR OPINION.
They are proud of you
EVEN WHEN LIFE GETS CRAZY HECTIC, YOU ALWAYS FEEL LIKE YOU ARE THEIR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY.
They say something supportive, when they could just as easily say something critical or negative.
There are small acts of kindness
You are in their future
They are proud to introduce you.
You want them after a hard day
They surprise you with good things
They want to know the other people you love
THEY CARE ABOUT YOUR POINT OF VIEW
THEY TREAT YOU AS AN EQUAL
They do something nice for you and don’t expect something in return.
They make you your best self
You can disagree with them and still get along.
They would rather be honest with you and risk upsetting you than lie to you.
You can feel how much they care and they hurt to see you hurt.
They are close to your friends and family
Your relationship is growing, and not just because of your efforts.
They are interested in and respectful of your family members.
They care about your happiness
Their communication skills are top-notch, even when life is crappy
They are your best friend as well as your partner.
You can be together and still encourage each other’s independence
They’re the first person you want to share good — or bad — news with
They listen to what you say and remember it.
You’re the real, authentic ‘you’ around them
They take care of you when you’re sick.
They are genuinely patient.
They believe in your relationship
They learn from their mistakes (and you do too)
They are always gentle with you, no matter the mood.
They’re flexible enough to do some things your way without being resentful, blaming or thinking they’ve ‘lost’
They love spoiling you.
They have an open mind
They accept the less appealing parts of you and don’t beat you up for your flaws
They hold and soothe you when you’re crying.
They are willing to apologize and admit fault.
Your close friends are big fans of your relationship
You handle conflicts together.
They are genuinely happy for you when something good happens to you.
They are willing to work through the tuff stuff
You’re proud to call them your partner
You can talk to them about almost anything.